Causes of Pull her down (Phd) syndrome of women
Society has since time immemorial systematically pitted women against each other. It’s largely because we live in a patriarchal society that puts more value on men and that believes men make great leaders and create better or more output than women. Therefore in seeking value and validation, women tend to view themselves as competitors rather than equals.
The belief that there isn’t much to go around in the world and the scramble for “scarce” resources may be the other reason why some women become territorial or aggressive.
Signs that one has a Pull her down (Phd) Syndrome towards other women
- Not being happy to hear about the success of other women.
- Highlighting the faults of other women and crushing their self-esteem.
- The refusal to assist in the development of other women or withholding of information that could empower them.
- Competitive behavior, Condescending conversations or snide remarks.
- Arrogance and blatant disrespect of other women, the belief that one is more superior to the other.
- Sabotaging another woman’s efforts, crushing their ideas or passing them up for opportunities.
- If unchecked this can escalate to a point where one goes out of her way to perform malicious acts meant to harm others or get them into trouble.
How women can overcome the Pull her down (Phd) Syndrome
Challenging traditional ways is not something that can happen overnight, it has to be learnt and practiced for women to instill new beliefs and mindsets about themselves and each other. Women can work together and eradicate this problem through:
- Respect for each other and viewing each other as partners and equals regardless of different lifestyles.
- Supporting, mentoring and encouraging each other.
- Sharing information that could uplift others without feeling insecure.
- Complementing each other, a kind word and gesture goes a long way into motivating others and promoting cohesion.
- Self-love, self-respect and a healthy sense of value. Investing in own self-development rather than someone else’s destruction.
- Knowing your rights and learning to stand up for yourself. Reporting any inappropriate behavior.
- Confronting the perpetrator and calling them out for their behavior.
- Creating an environment where there are equal opportunities for all, regardless of gender.