When children are not able to meet the minimum academic standards at school it can be equally devastating for them as well as their parents or guardians. It is easy as a parent to feel helpless, angry and fraught with worry. Thankfully, there are many positive steps you can take to get your child back on track.
- Re-frame failure as feedback
It is important to teach children from an early age that failure whilst not the ideal in life, is a normal part of learning and growing. We must always accept and embrace our children in success and in failure. When we instead become angry and harsh every time they fail, (and there will be many times), children tend to withdraw and may hide or alter their marks out of fear of being found out. It is important to treat failure not as a permanent irreparable state, but as feedback that informs us where the child is lacking and how they can do better in future. Such a healthy approach instills honesty, self-confidence and motivates the child to perform at their very best.
- Take Positive action
Be inquisitive about your child’s learning environment; find out if there are any distractions at home or at school preventing them from doing well. Meticulously account for your child’s activities and time management, for example you could reduce or convert the time they spend with gaming gadgets on in front of the television into study time. Model good behavior for your children and create a stable, safe and comfortable environment for them at home. Work together with the teachers, get feedback on how the child is doing in class and make use of extra lessons where possible. Follow up to ensure that homework is done on time to discourage laziness and procrastination. Encourage your children to prepare well and work twice as hard during examination time. It is the parent’s responsibility to be hands on in their children’s lives if they are to be successful individuals.
3. Give them a pat on the back
Praise and Reward the child when they improve even by a tiny mark. This will encourage the child to continue to do better. Never compare your child to others. Children do not possess the same strengths, this will only make them feel inadequate and discouraged. Celebrate your child’s good points. Always think laterally, focus on where else the child is really doing well and magnify that. This will surely give them a boost and act as a spring board for better marks in other areas in future.