Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself and your abilities. You are what you think. Low self-esteem can have a negative impact on your life and what you can achieve. There are several situations in life that can result in your self-esteem taking a huge knock, such as loneliness, bullying, abuse and unemployment. In order to improve self-esteem one has to do some work internal work in self-discovery, self-acceptance, self-worth and self-development. People with a healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves regardless of what is happening around them. Though they may have faults or challenges, these don’t play an overwhelmingly large role in their lives or in how they view themselves.
Here are 10 ways of improving your self-esteem;
- Replace negative thoughts with positive ones
Write down some positive things about yourself and read them to yourself every morning and evening. E.g. I am beautiful, I am kind, I am loved, I have dreams, I can do anything etc.
- Focus on what’s going right and magnify that
Write down a list of the things that are working out and put them on the spotlight. This will serve as a reminder that it’s really not that bad. E.g. I have a Job, I have a home, I have family etc.
- Practice good self-care
Spend some time alone and nurture yourself. Do the things you like. This will serve as a positive boost.
- Remove activities, things or people that make you unhappy
Anything that drains you or zaps the energy out of you, will only pull you back. Remove and replace that with things you are comfortable with.
- Identify what triggers the low self esteem
These are things that cause you to immediately feel small or insecure. Do not judge yourself for having weaknesses and never force yourself to do what you’re uncomfortable with.
- Try new activities
New adventures will help you discover your skills and talents. Be open minded, meet new people and try different things. Who knows what you may discover?
- Always reward yourself for effort
Don’t expect perfection in the journey of life. Any effort however small, must be rewarded to keep you motivated.
- Hang around positive people
Choose people who inspire you to be better. They will offer positive guidance and advice.
- Change what you can, accept what you can’t
Be accepting of yourself, your body and your life. Change what you can but don’t set impossible standards for yourself.
- Set goals and take a small bite at a time
The thought of achieving your goals can be overwhelming. To avoid this, break down your goals into smaller tasks and every time you complete one, celebrate!
Remember change starts within you. You have to do the work. Don’t worry about what others are doing or saying; focus on improving your life.